What does it mean to re-evaluate ideas of beauty in Africa? Using performance as a research methodology and the idea of serurubele (“butterfly” in Sesotho and Setswana) as a heuristic device, this performance-lecture explored the value that critically engaging with people’s relationships with butterflies, butterfly-games, songs, and memories holds in the context of decolonial, African-centred scholarship. Could interrogating the idea of butterflies, as well as the tenderness that comes with black African men’s memories of butterflies, offer a more nuanced perspective of black masculinity and gender identity?